Five things nobody ever told you

Enlighten yourself with five things nobody told you in your growing up years...

By Foxesden


Outer beauty is not everything

As young teenagers, many girls and boys get into relationships because of the first attraction. Teenage is an age where youngsters like to experiment. You have done it, your siblings have done it, your children are going to do it. Even if Mother Teresa wakes up from her grave to give you a suggestion about a wrong decision you’re making with your life right now, you wouldn’t listen. It is so natural to be rebellious at that age and get things done your way.

According to a survey conducted by ‘Stage of Life’, 66% of high school and college students admit to having had their heart broken. This also shows that most first relationships don’t sustain to establish into a marriage.

It is essential to understand that outer beauty is temporary and that many years into your life, it is all going to fade away. There is no point in finding your happiness in something momentary. No matter how stunning you look today, even your skin is going to sag just like everyone else’s. What matters is what you have behind that sagging skin. A beautiful mind stays even after the soul has died. A beautiful body always dies.

Do what you love

Dylan Lauren, daughter of Ralph Lauren and American entrepreneur said, “Believe in yourself, listen to your gut, and do what you love”. The gut feeling, also sometimes called as the intuition, is when you sense something and without knowing why you’re sure what you sense is true.

In the movie ‘Pursuit of Happyness” starring Will Smith, there is a dialogue Christopher Gardner says to his son – “Don’t ever let somebody tell you that you can’t do something. Not even me. All right?” He tells him to never listen to anybody who puts him down by saying he can’t do something, even if that somebody happens to be his own father. The beauty of this dialogue is that a father says that to his son and it’s an advice a parent would normally never give.

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You may want to be an architect, an actor, or even an artist. Just remember, no matter how old or young you are, nobody has the authority to tell you what you should do with your life. Your decisions will always describe what you make of your life. Never let your decisions be influenced by a bigger figure. You have been given a single life, don’t give it your everything unless it is your decision. It’s important to know your worth and receive what you have earned. Remember that when you follow the path of doing what you love, money will automatically flow in. This is by far the best remedy for staying happy.

You will face Rejection

Rejection is a part of life. The faster you start accepting failure, the faster you are going to learn to deal with it. It often happens that you may have to undergo the whole process of failure even if it isn’t your fault.

“This is so unfair, why is all the bad luck in my fate?”. You know you have matured when you stop saying this. Try not to take failure too personally because if you are in your 20’s, you will not have anything figured out anytime soon. However, the brighter side of the situation is that you may not have to be in this alone. Find and cherish the people who are still by your side when your world is falling apart.

Don’t be stuck in your past

Did you have a bad day yesterday? Did you have a bad February? Or did you have a horrible 2016? It is okay if your answer to all these questions is yes because it doesn’t matter if it was a bad time. Human beings are intelligent creatures, but our intelligence is stinkingly high when it comes to holding on to our past, only because it is the easiest thing to do. You aren’t getting anything out of remembering your past if you’re not learning from it and moving on.

If your past doesn’t let you live in the present, here are some things you must incorporate in yourself.

1. Learn to love the process of living: You have a life, you have friends, colleagues, and family. Talk to people you haven’t before, get to know more about people you know little about and discover new things in new people. You are getting somewhere and loving the process of living will make the journey easier.
2. Be thankful for what you have: Be grateful for what already exists. Sadness lets the disregarding nature in your soul emerge out. Get rid of that.
3. Meditate and work out: You don’t always need to hit the gym to build a six pack body. Keeping yourself healthy and fit will help you realize that you are better than what you were yesterday. A healthy physical body will award you with a healthy mental mind.

“You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you’ll escape one day, and how awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do it. You just use the future to escape the present.” – John Green, Looking for Alaska

Get inspired, everyday

With increasingly high-stress levels in a fast moving country like ours, we often forget to connect ourselves to our society and humanity in the smallest of ways. A normal day at work may include you being in the office from 9 to 6 and going back home to meet a lot of responsibilities and family expectations. It is natural to be disconnected to mankind because of this. In order to feel lively and stimulated every single day, find your inspiration in the nominal things.

Always stay curious about your surroundings, learn risk management and balance out your life with your important and urgent checklist. No matter how stressful your work is, never let your creativity die so engage yourself in the things that make you happy.