3 Reasons Why Being Alone Doesn’t Have To Mean Being Lonely

In fact, being alone can feel just as rewarding, if not more than being around other people.

By Jalyn Soo


Honestly, being alone doesn’t equate to being lonely. I would like to call myself an introvert, because I love time spent by myself more than anything else. It gives me so much space for creativity and freedom. I don’t have to account to anyone and I can simply do things at my own pace.
I know that not everyone is like that. Some people can’t deal with being alone. They have to be constantly talking to someone, otherwise they will feel so out of place. They can’t imagine being alone for a few minutes, yet here I am spending days on end just by myself, enjoying the company of no one.
I don’t know why people see spending time alone as something negative, but I assure you that it can do you some good. Here’s 3 reasons why you should continue spending time alone, and why you should embrace it if you haven’t.
1) It lets you live in the moment
If you’re someone who’s always looking forward to the next thing, and can never stand being left out, then it’s time to try to let loose. Try to spend some time alone with no concrete plans that you have to follow. Turn your phone off, or leave it behind when you head out. Once you’re not afraid to do that, you’ll find yourself more at ease, without constantly feeling so uptight about things around you. You’ll learn more about yourself, and more about your environment. Most importantly, you’ll learn to be present with yourself. You’ll learn to live in the moment, without all the fusses of what’s going to happen next.
I know, doing something foreign is always difficult, and may even put you in an uncomfortable spot. But it’s at that point when we overlook all our self-doubts and start to experience the littlest things that life has to offer—things that we tend to miss out.
2) Doing things for yourself is loving yourself
When was the last time you truly enjoyed doing something? Perhaps it’s time to cancel off certain things on your mini bucket list. Go for a run, bake some delectable goodies, go for a spa and facial, read a book at a café. If it’s been long since you did something you truly enjoy, then now’s the time for it. Partake in an activity that makes you feel a whole lot better about yourself, that gives you a feeling of rejuvenation. When alone time starts to align with improving your well-being and wanting to continuously improve who you are as a person, then it will never be seen as something lonely and negative ever again.
3) You get to put yourself before others
We spend a lot of our time doing things for others, but how many times have we stopped in our tracks to do something for ourselves?

 

Yes, you get to be selfish. But remember, being selfish isn’t always necessarily a bad thing. When you take someone out from your daily routine, you get to focus on yourself. You get to put yourself first. You don’t have to compromise on anything, or give in to something because you feel bad if everyone were to have it your way. You’ll get to have it your way and choose what you want to eat, what time you want to hit the gym and what music you want to listen to.

 

It’s not all about being selfish per se, it’s also understanding that you can do certain things by yourself and have just as much fun. Sure, it may be difficult for a start, but by stripping your dependence of others around you and putting yourself first, you’ll come to love and understand yourself more. Eventually, you’ll reach a new level of happiness that you never thought existed.
To be honest, being alone is all about moderation. Too much of it may make you feel lonely, yet too little of it can build up a stifling environment that you’ll struggle in. If you’re feeling a bit lonely and would rather not be alone, call up your friend for a chat over coffee! If you’re in for a break from human interaction, grab your favourite book and curl up under the sheets. This isn’t about anyone, it’s all about you—go ahead and refresh your soul!